Airreia Pierce: A Joyful Mother of Children
Being a mother is a blessing, just ask Airreia Pierce. Airreia is our Millennial Mom for this week’s Motherhood Monday blog feature. Airreia lives in Greensboro, NC with her husband, Samuel (aka Sam), their 3-year old daughter and 8-month old son. This year, the amazing couple will celebrate their 10th anniversary and, as Airreia explains, it’s been a learning process. In the decade of their union, they have overcome doubt, discouragement, pain, and tremendous heartache to become victorious witnesses to the goodness of God.
Airreia and I met online during quarantine but it did not take long for me to recognize that she had a story to tell. You see, this young mom authored three inspirational books! I determined that this Mom had something to say and I had to find out more. This week, I reached out to Airreia to find that she and her husband have an amazing testimony of strength and courage. I am honored to share their faith journey with the Abundant Life community.
Prior to becoming a mom, Airreia and her husband silently lived with fertility problems that prevented them from starting a family. According to the Mayo Clinic 10% to 15% of couples are infertile. The Pierce family lived with this reality for more than 5 very difficult years. The experience was compounded by the fact that they felt so alone in their experience. Their requests for support went unanswered. Even their prayers seemed to go unheard. It was a heavy burden to carry.
Airreia admits that often the daylight sun seemed dark during this very difficult time in their marriage. Visits to Fertility Specialists offered little hope. As a family, it tried the couple’s faith, and their marriage bond. Depression was a blinding foe that often caused Airreia not to see the pain her husband was experiencing. Did he care? Was he affected at all? Of course, he was. Airreia explains that in those moments of misery, her own pain and grief prevented her from recognizing the hidden work the Lord was accomplishing in Sam. Some would say it was a “valley experience” (Read Psalms 23). They would struggle but, thankfully, would not succumb to the fears they faced.
The most profound impact occurred when Sam and Airreia joined a faith-based support group for couples dealing with fertility issues. As it turns out, this group was located in Chicago, Illinois but their on-line presence made it possible for families like the Pierce's to participate from anywhere. This group provided so much of what was needed. They learned to praise God as a healer. By faith, Airreia began speaking favor over herself, confidently stating, “I am a joyful Mother of children!” As a couple, Airreia and Sam developed a strong prayer life and, together, they spoke life over their temporary valley experience. In addition, Airreia learned about fertility health, the role of diet in fertility, and how black women are impacted.
Not too long after finding the fertility support group, their miracle arrived in the gift of a baby girl. “God is amazing and faithful!”, Airreia testifies. Not long after giving birth to their first child, the new parents discovered they were pregnant again. Sadly, they lost their second baby. In 2019, they conceived again and experienced the joy of giving birth to their first son. “God is a healer”, declares Airreia. “Amen!”, I respond, finding myself lost in her enthusiasm.
Unfortunately, talking about infertility is a taboo topic in some communities. Airreia acknowledges that it can be a difficult subject and encourages hopeful couples to seek support from faith-based communities like Fertilizing Your Faith . She knows that the stressors of infertility are great and can drive some couples to the breaking point. The added financial stressors can be disheartening, with Fertility Treatment options reaching $15,000. It’s a costly investment for many hardworking people.
I wanted to know what family and friends could do to support couples wrestling with fertility hardships. Of course, Airreia provided some helpful insights. For instance, many people with family and friends who struggle to have their own child, are too quick to advice them to “Just adopt”. While adoption is a perfect option for many couples, it is not the answer for everyone. It is important to allow married people to come to an adoption decision on their own. On a very positive note, Airreia recalls one very simple but unforgettable gesture. One day she received a card from a very good friend, and was delighted to find that it was a Mother’s Day Card. The card arrived on the weekend of Mother’s Day, years before Airreia had actually become a mother. Airreia cherishes that card to this day. She received the card in love and embraced it as an indication that her friend was trusting and believing with her. She appreciated having friends who were happy to hang in there with them without losing hope.
There is so much more I could tell you about Airreia. For instance, this busy wife and mama, is currently enrolled in a Doctorial degree program. Her decision to begin a doctorial program was only made after praying and earnestly seeking God’s direction. By faith, she decided on a program, received an acceptance notice, and earned a scholarship! God opened the door and Airreia has obediently followed His direction. “If he gives you the vision, He’ll give you the provision!”, Airreia wisely declares.
This Millennial mom is doing very well and looking forward to her next family vacation. Her favorite beaches are Atlantic Beach and Kure Beach. Whenever life gets back to “normal” (post COVID) Airreia looks forward to enjoying a 4-day beach vacation with her family. “Go during the week.”, she says and then explains, “More discounts are available during the week”. I, for one, appreciate cost-saving tips.
Airreia and Sam experienced a lifetime worth of trials, all before their 6th wedding anniversay. It is evident they have allowed their experiences to strengthen their faith and fill their hearts with hope. Learn more about Airreia's experiences in her book entitled Pinky Promise: Journey of Faith in the Waiting's.