A Time to Speak
As a Doula, I quickly learned that in addition to healthy eating and exercise, emotional well-being is key to maternal health. The emotional well-being of a mother, however, reaches well beyond the walls of any traditional labor and delivery room. For instance, the current outrage over the execution of George Floyd, an unarmed black man murdered while in police custody has sparked an emotional outcry from many people including mothers. Mothers are concerned this type of dehumanizing and unethical brutality against black men exposes deep-rooted social issues that can be murderously unleashed against anyone of color at any time. We are looking for people and especially white Christians to stand up and speak out.
As an Abundant Life Doula, I could not remain silent during this critical time. The first thing I did was express myself in my blog and then I took three days to voice my concerns in prayer. No. I cried out to the Lord. I took my concerns and heartaches directly to the One who supplied my need before I knew what I would need. He supplied a significant portion of what was needed in the writings of Amy Julia Becker, a Christian Author and Blogger who speaks to faith, disability, privilege and race. Amy Julia was a solace because in her book, White Picket Fences, Turning to Love in a World Divided by Privilege, she provided understanding. Amy Julia took the time to look back over her life and honestly recognize the advantages and access denied to people of color. With that, she was able to honestly and lovingly provide healing words to myself and others during a Facebook Live event on June 10, 2020.
Days later, I began to read comments from other Christians like my friend Gayle. Gayle is white and married to a black Christian man. She expressed her concern in these words:
“I have been thinking a lot and praying before I decided to say anything about what is going on across the country right now. I have so much in my heart and mind that I needed to figure it all out before I commented. As a white person I am ashamed and embarrassed of the actions of the white police officers that have taken the lives of so many black men and women. I am embarrassed of the hate and racism being shown. In order to stop racism, it has to stop being taught. We are not born with hate and racism in our hearts it is taught by parents, social media, and unfortunately supported by #45. As the wife of a black man, the mother of a black son and a white son, 2 black daughters, and a grandmother of 2 young black girls and 2 young black boys, 2 young white boys and 2 older black young men. I am afraid, angry, disgusted, frustrated, and just plain pissed off. I pray for them constantly that God will protect and keep them in this crazy, racist, demonic world!! I am hurt and scared of what either of them black or white will have to face as they grow in this current society if nothing changes! When my husband goes for a run I wonder, “Is today the day that some white police officer decides that my husband is “prey” for the day”. So, I pray for his safety constantly. It is sad that just going out for a run should make you feel that way. What is happening??!!!”
What is your concern or outrage? Don’t hold it in any longer. I believe our emotional and physical well-being is better served if we can express what we are feeling and it is abundantly helpful when we know someone is listening.